During pregnancy, so much focus is on mom and baby, that dad's often get a little overlooked in the whole process, even though they play just as important of a role and can have an extremely power influence on what pregnancy is like for the mom and therefore, the baby. I thought it would be nice to talk about how wonderful my Hubby has been since I have been pregnant, because he is truly amazing.
Scott has always been the one to shoulder most of the burden of cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, taking care of the animals, etc etc. While I have tried to get better at these things, during significant periods of my pregnancy I couldn't do anything. Scott has balanced classes, homework, working full-time, doing all the house work, cooking all of our meals, doing all the grocery shopping, doing MY laundry, taking care of the animals, all while reassuring me that it's ok that I couldn't do these things, particularly in my first trimester. I was so weak, sick, and missed a lot of work, which also put a strain on our budget, which Scott manages pretty much all on his own. Despite all of this, when I was sobbing on the bathroom floor, convinced I was dying and couldn't handle being pregnant any longer, he squeezed into the pukey smelling bathroom with me, sat on the floor, and cuddled me while I cried. Then he would say something silly to make me laugh, help me get laid back in bed, and bring me whatever I needed to be comfortable. We chose not to tell anyone that we were pregnant until after the first trimester was over, so he was literally my only support. I don't know if that overwhelmed him at all but he did such an amazing job and it was all that I needed to get through one of the most physically and emotionally challenging periods of my entire life.
One thing pregnancy has not done for me is boosted my self-esteem. When you feel gross and bloated everyday, on top of gaining weight, I have not always felt that great about myself. Sometimes I am just down right disgusted. It is terrifying to see your body going through changes that you have no control over, wondering if it is even possible for things to go back the way they were before. Though I struggle with this on a daily basis, Scott has always made me feel like I am beautiful and that my body is doing exactly what it needs to to grow this human being inside of me. I don't always feel pretty, but he always makes me feel like he thinks I am pretty, and that means a lot to an insecure and self-conscious woman.
Scott reminds me all the time about how strong I have been through my pregnancy. He even rewarded me with a new Coach purse and matching wallet!! But the truth is that every single time I ever felt overwhlemed, scared, confused, sad, mad, etc, the fact that he was always there supporting me gave me the only reassurance that I needed that everything would be fine. There is no way this pregnancy would have been as smooth for me if it wasn't for him. I have never once felt alone or unsupported. And even though I know he can't understand perfectly everything I am going though, the fact that he tries his absolute best and always makes me and baby the priority has given me a sense of calm and peace. He is such a strong man, inside and out. He is a wonderful husband and is going to be an amazing father.
I know that having a child will be amazing and yet terrifying and overwhelming at the same time. But I really feel like Scott and I together can conquer anything in the world. We aren't perfect, and we don't always know the right answers, but I know that I can depend on him every single time I need him. We are truly a team. I couldn't do any of this without him, and I could not imagine going through life with anyone but him. There is no way that I can adequately express how wonderful Scott has been, but I can say that he has made all the difference for me during not just during pregnancy but even before that. He is the center of my world and no matter what is going on in my life I know that I have my best friend to come home to and cuddle with, talk to about anything, and share all of life's ups and downs with. Being pregnant has only given me a stronger appreciation for the man he has been all along. There is no one else like him and I am so thankful and blessed everyday that he is mine. I heart you my Scottypoo!!
Friday, January 11, 2013
Wednesday, January 2, 2013
Things That Are Impossible When You Are 9 Months Pregnant
Things that are impossible:
1. Shaving my legs
2. Clipping toe nails
3. Drying my feet after a shower
4. Bending over in general
5. Rolling over in bed
6. Going more the 90 minutes without having to pee
7. Sleeping longer than 2 hours before waking up to pee
8. Getting off the couch without grunting
9. Sitting down without grunting
10. Walking without a waddle
11. Breathing through my stuffy nose
12. Eating anything without getting heartburn
13. Not having back and hip pain
14. Not walking around like a crippled old lady who needs a walker
15. Walking up 2 stairs (not flights of stairs, just 2 stairs) without getting winded.
16. Opening a door and not banging it into your stomach
17. Cooking without banging your stomach into the counter
18. Not feeling like the Goodyear blimp with your swollen face, feet, ankles, and hands.
19. Working, or doing anything productive for an extended period of time due to exhaustion and serious pregnancy brain.
20. Being graceful.
21. Not smiling every time baby kicks his little feet or sticks his little butt out so far in makes my stomach look lopsided.
22. Giggling to myself every time Baby head butts me in the bladder and sends me running to the bathroom.
23. Not rubbing my belly.
24. Not thinking about Baby 24/7
25. Not being a little proud of yourself for surviving the ups and downs of pregnancy so far, and for actually becoming stronger because of it.
26. Not counting down the days/hours/minutes/seconds until your due date
27. Not working yourself into a manic state due to being so overwhelmingly excited to meet your little man.
28. Loving your husband any more than when you think about what a good father he is going to be.
29. Not obsessing over the sudden need to shampoo the hell out of your carpets.
30. Not worrying about whether you will be good at breast feeding.
31. Not being a little bit scared by a breast pump.
32. Not wondering how you will handle your baby's first blow out.
33. Not laughing when thinking about how you are going to react to your baby's first blow out.
34. Not thinking about how scary the world is now that you are going to be raising a child in it.
35. Understanding how you can love something so much you haven't even met yet.
36. Understanding how you ever lived before this little person was in your life.
37. Not getting a little misty every time you think about all the things that you have to look forward to in the future.
38. To be any happier or to feel any more blessed.
39. To not be willing to take on the world if it meant protecting your baby.
40. Not to give your whole heart to the little person you created despite how scary it is that no matter how hard your try, so much is out of your control.
I wouldn't trade any of it for anything else in the world. It hasn't been easy, but it's been perfect <3
1. Shaving my legs
2. Clipping toe nails
3. Drying my feet after a shower
4. Bending over in general
5. Rolling over in bed
6. Going more the 90 minutes without having to pee
7. Sleeping longer than 2 hours before waking up to pee
8. Getting off the couch without grunting
9. Sitting down without grunting
10. Walking without a waddle
11. Breathing through my stuffy nose
12. Eating anything without getting heartburn
13. Not having back and hip pain
14. Not walking around like a crippled old lady who needs a walker
15. Walking up 2 stairs (not flights of stairs, just 2 stairs) without getting winded.
16. Opening a door and not banging it into your stomach
17. Cooking without banging your stomach into the counter
18. Not feeling like the Goodyear blimp with your swollen face, feet, ankles, and hands.
19. Working, or doing anything productive for an extended period of time due to exhaustion and serious pregnancy brain.
20. Being graceful.
21. Not smiling every time baby kicks his little feet or sticks his little butt out so far in makes my stomach look lopsided.
22. Giggling to myself every time Baby head butts me in the bladder and sends me running to the bathroom.
23. Not rubbing my belly.
24. Not thinking about Baby 24/7
25. Not being a little proud of yourself for surviving the ups and downs of pregnancy so far, and for actually becoming stronger because of it.
26. Not counting down the days/hours/minutes/seconds until your due date
27. Not working yourself into a manic state due to being so overwhelmingly excited to meet your little man.
28. Loving your husband any more than when you think about what a good father he is going to be.
29. Not obsessing over the sudden need to shampoo the hell out of your carpets.
30. Not worrying about whether you will be good at breast feeding.
31. Not being a little bit scared by a breast pump.
32. Not wondering how you will handle your baby's first blow out.
33. Not laughing when thinking about how you are going to react to your baby's first blow out.
34. Not thinking about how scary the world is now that you are going to be raising a child in it.
35. Understanding how you can love something so much you haven't even met yet.
36. Understanding how you ever lived before this little person was in your life.
37. Not getting a little misty every time you think about all the things that you have to look forward to in the future.
38. To be any happier or to feel any more blessed.
39. To not be willing to take on the world if it meant protecting your baby.
40. Not to give your whole heart to the little person you created despite how scary it is that no matter how hard your try, so much is out of your control.
I wouldn't trade any of it for anything else in the world. It hasn't been easy, but it's been perfect <3
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